My wife just lost her best friend. She did not lose her due to a death or because she moved away, she lost her because we left the Church and “showed disrespect” to the pastor. We had been members of the church since 1996 and had been involved in many of the ministries of the church for years.

But when I started to teach on the Wholeness of Christ and the need of Unity of the Churches, I became the target of some who held that I was wrong. When I started this web site, I was accused of being in disobedience to the pastor and was also accused of “Teaching false doctrines” and my membership was revoked.

They said I had an unteachable spirit and would bring harm to the church. Then they announced from the pulpit that I was expelled from the church. My Family followed me and many friends stood by me but the best friend of my wife supported the leadership of the church.

It has been ten months since this happened and I thought I had dealt with it but when I and my family went back to pay tribute to a dear lady who had passed on to Glory, I found that I still harboured hurt and resentment. My daughter had even a harder time dealing with it. As our friends saw the hurt that still lingered, they came to welcome us and to treat us kindly, but the best friend of my wife could only see the “wrongness” that I had committed, I disagreed with the pastor.

So she wrote a letter to my wife, saying all the hurtful things that she had harboured over the last ten months. Now what do I do? I asked other men of God for advice when I felt the hurt come back and they all said the same thing, that it would take two or three years to get over the hurt. If I had been at the church for a short while, it would have taken a short while to get to grips with it but because we had been there thirteen years, it would be a long time healing.

I could say all kind of horrid things but that would only cheapen me and make the message worthless. I struggle with that in the political world, I don’t need to do that in the Spiritual realm. So I just pray for the power to NOT say bad things about people who believe that they are right and I am wrong. As to whether I have an unteachable spirit, well I let God teach me and I continue to seek new knowledge all the time, I try not to be blinded by ideology or bigotry that has crippled the church in the past. And now, in these times of stress, I offer myself up in daily atonement because of the grief that I cause My Lord, Jesus.

Pray for me that I do not weaken in my resolve to spread the Good News that Jesus loves and can not let me give into hate. Also pray for those missions that I have listed on the side. In particular, pray for my friend Wendy and for “Serving in Mission” who work in Islamic countries under constant threat.